My personal spending is limited and all my savings will one day benefit my wife and me in the form of a smaller … "In my husband's case, it was such an issue that it was good that he communicated it so that I understood," says Pam. One person in the relationship is the spender who enjoys spending money and buying things, while the other person is the saver who wants to pinch pennies and never spend a dime. It doesn’t matter if my husband is spending $50 or $5,000, what matters is are we in agreement in principle of what he is buying or spending on. he hasn't bought anything for me. This is the case in my marriage. He spends all his money on what he wants to. Yes, I have a reluctance to spend more than $35 on a dinner, I hate spending $10 on a cocktail, and flying to the other coast for a weekend seems extravagant to me, but it’s not like I’m spending the money on myself. My husband had been emotionally withdrawing and doesn't initiate sex anymore. But my husband and I have found a beautiful compromise for this dilemma — we have established … It's as simple as that. For example, if we made $400 more than we spent, we each get $40 to spend as fun money … Football, fav foods, etc. I have been with my BF for almost 9 months and have spent a lot of money on odds and ends thoughtfully depending on the events i.e. The problem that I have is that now that we are here, my husband refuses to spend any of the money that we have saved. At the end of each month, if we spent less than we made, we take a percentage of that amount of money to be our spending money in the next month. 11. "I think you can tell a lot about a person by the way they handle their money." He and his former wife were married 43 years before she passed away with lung cancer. Signs My Husband Doesn’t Love Me Anymore – If your spouse prefers to spend time before the computer, examining a guide or going out with colleagues or friends to get a beer, you almost certainly have a problem. My husband often does not know what is in our bank account, flies off on work, spends a large amount of money on dinner and drinks, and then leaves me scrimping on grocery bills. My Husband Doesnt Spend Money On Me And Wont Show Me What He Spends On by Ijeoma2008: 9:19pm; Dear Nairaland, I know this place can be vicious and also insightful so please take it easy on me! I completed my … For example my husband loves tech gadgets, just the other day he came and sat next to me and said I need $130 to buy a new hard drive. He also spent his extra time with friends. He prefers to spend his money on his children and in face likes to direct our life toward his family and they tolerate me. Once I got changed and I saw the look of disgust when he saw my belly. 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